What I Learned in Bed with Hannah Wydeven
By: Hannah Wydeven
Issue date: 12/5/08 Section: Features
Dear Hannah,
I have been making out with this guy and I think we are going to go to the next step. I have never given a hand job or a blow job, so I am a little ignorant about how it's done. What is the best practice for when a guy cums? I don't know who else to ask!
Newbie in Need
Communication is the most important thing in every sexual relationship, so be honest with your partner about your lack of experience. Especially when it comes to first sexual experiences, you and your boy will both be happier if you can talk about it before. When you're giving your boyfriend a hand job, he will know what to do when he is ready to orgasm, and will likely take the reins once he gets there. That way, you won't have to worry about trying to figure out what to do with his semen. If you are too nervous to bring it up, then keep some Kleenex handy.
If you are giving your guy a blow job, you have several options for when the time comes. People like to boil it down to "spit or swallow", but that assumes that you want semen in your mouth to begin with. If you would rather not have your boyfriend's man-juice in your mouth, tell him, and he should be more than happy to pull out and take care of that business himself. Just be sure you tell him before you start getting into it.
Dear Hannah,
Butt licking. Why do people do it? How do people do it? I have been with the same partner for a while and we have done everything imaginable, plus a few, BUT, we have never done any licking of butts. We have talked about it ourselves, but we want your esteemed advice. Thanks!
Potential Brown-Nosed Bob
Although butt-licking is a very accurate description of the process, anal play with the tongue is actually called analingus-or more casually, "rimming." People participate in analingus for the same reason they participate in any other sexual activity, because it feels good. Your anus is surrounded by bundles of nerves that can set you off, especially when in contact with another sensitive, erotic part of your body, like the tongue. Anal play in any form also stimulates the pelvic muscles, which contract during an orgasm. So, rimming can be a great way to give your partner a new and exciting form of sexy pleasure.
I have been making out with this guy and I think we are going to go to the next step. I have never given a hand job or a blow job, so I am a little ignorant about how it's done. What is the best practice for when a guy cums? I don't know who else to ask!
Newbie in Need
Communication is the most important thing in every sexual relationship, so be honest with your partner about your lack of experience. Especially when it comes to first sexual experiences, you and your boy will both be happier if you can talk about it before. When you're giving your boyfriend a hand job, he will know what to do when he is ready to orgasm, and will likely take the reins once he gets there. That way, you won't have to worry about trying to figure out what to do with his semen. If you are too nervous to bring it up, then keep some Kleenex handy.
If you are giving your guy a blow job, you have several options for when the time comes. People like to boil it down to "spit or swallow", but that assumes that you want semen in your mouth to begin with. If you would rather not have your boyfriend's man-juice in your mouth, tell him, and he should be more than happy to pull out and take care of that business himself. Just be sure you tell him before you start getting into it.
Dear Hannah,
Butt licking. Why do people do it? How do people do it? I have been with the same partner for a while and we have done everything imaginable, plus a few, BUT, we have never done any licking of butts. We have talked about it ourselves, but we want your esteemed advice. Thanks!
Potential Brown-Nosed Bob
Although butt-licking is a very accurate description of the process, anal play with the tongue is actually called analingus-or more casually, "rimming." People participate in analingus for the same reason they participate in any other sexual activity, because it feels good. Your anus is surrounded by bundles of nerves that can set you off, especially when in contact with another sensitive, erotic part of your body, like the tongue. Anal play in any form also stimulates the pelvic muscles, which contract during an orgasm. So, rimming can be a great way to give your partner a new and exciting form of sexy pleasure.
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