What I Learned in Bed
By: Hannah Wydeven
Issue date: 5/1/09 Section: Features
Dear Hannah,
It seems like when I get really stressed out, my sex drive disappears. I can't make myself horny because all I can think about is work. The only way I can masturbate is if I watch porn, but I hate the idea of porn and I don't like getting off to it. What can I do to make myself horny again without watching porn?
-Worried about E.D.
Anytime stress hits, the first thing to go is mental and physical health, which are the two things you need to retain if you want to have a great sex drive. The easiest remedies are sleep, exercise, and eating well, but sometimes those things are completely unattainable when you have mountains of work to do. Self medicating your stress through alcohol or other drugs will only make things worse in the libido department as well, so it would seem like there is nothing to do to get your mojo back in shape during the toughest times of the year.
There are tons of "quick fixes" for increasing your sex drive that you shouldn't even consider at this age, especially considering that your problem is not really a physical one, but more a lack of time. Instead, you have to work to incorporate healthy habits into your life in order to get your body back on track. I know it can be almost impossible to find time to exercise when you have work to do, but improving your fitness is one of the best things you can do to increase your libido. Eating foods that have healthy oils in them will get you back on track as well. The key is to manage your work so that you have some free time for yourself.
It may sound silly to plan your day around your masturbation habits, but it could be what you need to clear your mind enough to fantasize. Schedule yourself time for work, time for exercise, and time for masturbation. If you know that you have one hour to yourself and your thoughts, then you won't be flustered trying to squeeze one out in time to finish that last minute paper.
Unfortunately, stress is the ultimate killer for libido, but you don't have to turn to porn to solve the problem. Plan your day well, get some sleep, and count down the days until summer.
It seems like when I get really stressed out, my sex drive disappears. I can't make myself horny because all I can think about is work. The only way I can masturbate is if I watch porn, but I hate the idea of porn and I don't like getting off to it. What can I do to make myself horny again without watching porn?
-Worried about E.D.
Anytime stress hits, the first thing to go is mental and physical health, which are the two things you need to retain if you want to have a great sex drive. The easiest remedies are sleep, exercise, and eating well, but sometimes those things are completely unattainable when you have mountains of work to do. Self medicating your stress through alcohol or other drugs will only make things worse in the libido department as well, so it would seem like there is nothing to do to get your mojo back in shape during the toughest times of the year.
There are tons of "quick fixes" for increasing your sex drive that you shouldn't even consider at this age, especially considering that your problem is not really a physical one, but more a lack of time. Instead, you have to work to incorporate healthy habits into your life in order to get your body back on track. I know it can be almost impossible to find time to exercise when you have work to do, but improving your fitness is one of the best things you can do to increase your libido. Eating foods that have healthy oils in them will get you back on track as well. The key is to manage your work so that you have some free time for yourself.
It may sound silly to plan your day around your masturbation habits, but it could be what you need to clear your mind enough to fantasize. Schedule yourself time for work, time for exercise, and time for masturbation. If you know that you have one hour to yourself and your thoughts, then you won't be flustered trying to squeeze one out in time to finish that last minute paper.
Unfortunately, stress is the ultimate killer for libido, but you don't have to turn to porn to solve the problem. Plan your day well, get some sleep, and count down the days until summer.
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Student
posted 5/04/09 @ 9:41 PM CST
We'll miss you, Hannah! You've done a really great job!
Hugo
posted 5/07/09 @ 4:36 AM CST
Discovered your column today. I ?ve enojyed the archives, having some smiles and learning lots (about sex and even more about people). Great job girl. (Continued…)
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